Kissing is a means of getting two people so close together that they can’t see anything wrong with each other.
It’s the end of every romantic comedy and it seals the deal in every wedding. It’s the subject of songs (thank you Prince), movies (thank you Drew Barrymore), and you ALWAYS remember your first. So… why is it that something so simple, can complicate our relationships? Maybe, just maybe… you or your partner, just isn’t doing it right?!
While there are several ways to mentally and physically bond with your mate, kissing is one of the most profound. The lip-lock is the height of intimacy, and an issue that I am surprised comes up OFTEN as I counsel my couples.
In my practice, couples often complain about each other’s inability to kiss, or lack of desire to enjoy something that is the essence of togetherness.
“The Kiss,” subjectively speaking, is the closest connection between you and your significant. There is nothing more heavenly in the relationship than enjoying a kiss. A good kiss says I am for you and you are for me. Typically, when couples are at odds with one another, the first thing to be eliminated (physically) is the kiss. There are couples when angry with one another that will engage in sexual activity, but not dare to kiss, as a way to say, I’m still mad at you. SO, there might be no kissing, only penetration and oral. #RIDICULOUSNESS
The basis of your sexual attachment to each other begins with a kiss. Kissing exemplifies the commitment to your mate and solidifies your bond. Without a good-kissing connection, your lovemaking is merely an apple-pie without the apples.
Unless you appreciate the ‘the art of kissing’ it’s asinine to think you can have mind-blowing sex without the presence of an intense lip-lock. Can everyone kiss? It’s relative, but as a therapist, it’s my job to help clients have better relationships and better sex, so I’ve come up with some guidelines for engaged/great kissing.
There is nothing greater for a Man, than when a woman enjoys the softness of your lips and the play of your tongue. Here are some things to keep in mind:
- Tongue language = pay attention to your mate’s tongue language, he or she will
tell you with their tongue how they desire to be kissed. Since the woman controls
the sexual energy, men you should follow her tongue’s directives.
- Never overindulge your tongue inside of your mate’s mouth. ¼ to ½ is all your
mate needs (unless they reach for more).
- Men, place one hand on the small of your woman’s back and the other on the back
of her head, bring her into you while looking into her eyes. Kiss her gently yet
intense enough that she has no choice but to recognize your virility.
- Ladies, when it’s really intense grab and palm his ass and grasp it while enjoying the continuity of the kiss.
- A wet kiss is a bad kiss, you’re not dogs and salivating is a turnoff. If you enjoy
your mate, exchanging saliva is one of your greatest trusts and aphrodisiacs.
- Kissing is great because it requires work from both individuals. You’re both equal in the give and take, no one should be dominating the other. Kissing shouldn’t be work, but an enjoyment.
- If your mate tells you they don’t like to kiss, USUALLY, that’s their way of saying
they’re not into you. Almost everyone enjoys a good kisser, but some don’t want the emotional attachment (even when married) that comes along with kissing. How in the
#$%^*([email protected] can you penetrate or receive someone, yet say, “I don’t want to kiss you?’
Following these tips should increase the intensity of your kisses and increase the passion in your relationships. Let’s kiss to that!
Dr. Tiy-E Muhammad